Pro-Choice/Pro-Life, Let's Work Together

Wayne Van Der Wal wrote this book to help end unplanned pregnancies, ease the stress women face, and greatly reduce abortions—and the heated fights over them. Drawing from personal experience as someone who has been both pro-choice and pro-life, as well as from years of counseling women on both sides of the issue, Wayne argues that most people—regardless of viewpoint—can agree on one thing: preventing unintended pregnancies matters. He explores options like abstinence, contraception, natural family planning, and adoption—among others—to help woman avoid the difficult burden of unplanned pregnancy.

To foster unity, Wayne urges moving beyond "win-or-lose" fights to honest conversations marked by active listening, empathy, and neutral language. He offers concrete steps—improving comprehensive sex education, expanding access to family planning resources, and bolstering childcare and counseling services—to support women in making informed decisions. Schools, churches, community groups, and families each have a role, sharing accurate information and compassionate care to create supportive environments.

By shifting from conflict to collaboration—sharing resources, respecting differing views, and keeping women's health at the center—Wayne argues we can drive down unintended pregnancy rates. When people unite around clear, solution-focused goals, fewer women will face the heartache of unplanned pregnancies or feel compelled to choose abortion. United in this effort, we can create a healthier, more compassionate society where every women gets the support she needs.