The Child Attachment Handbook How to Parent a Child and Create a Safe and Healthy Environment at Home

Infants are born with a variety of intrinsic behaviors that help them survive. In times of need or suffering, the infant's attachment behavior allows them to bring others towards them. Infants that have experienced a solid attachment bond acquire a pretty strong expectation of feeling protected and safe, which allows them to explore their surroundings with greater confidence.

Our attachment instinct, shared by most mammals, is a fundamental adaptation for survival in infancy. When newborns are scared, anxious, feel ill, or are threatened, their attachment system is triggered. In this stage, infants will commence proximity-seeking behaviors such as weeping, clinging, or following with their eyes in babies, and more verbal or complex behaviors in older children towards their primary attachment figure (normally a parent or the main caregiver). The attachment method can be removed once proximity and reassurance have been reached. Seeking help and the various techniques an individual takes to get aid are the foundations of the attachment process.

Based on repeated contacts with significant others, the child develops a set of mental models of itself and others in social interactions in response to parenting behavior. These early attachment interactions are critical for subsequent social relationships, the development of emotional and stress regulation capacities, self-control, mentalization, and emotional maturity. As a result, a child who forms insecure or disorganized relationships, maybe due to mistreatment or placement in several foster care homes, is more likely to suffer in these areas and exhibit emotional and behavioral challenges.