We Fuck, We Feel, We Ghost

"The fucking is easy. It's the feeling that's hard. It's the staying."

In an age of infinite swipes and zero commitment, finding love has never been more complicated. Fransesco Malila knows this intimately. A DevOps engineer by day and reluctant romantic by night, he's spent years navigating the chaos of modern dating in Dar es Salaam—accumulating enough disasters to fill a book. So he did.

We Fuck, We Feel, We Ghost is a memoir in three acts:

Act I: We Fuck — The mechanics of hookup culture, the apps that enable it, and the strange emptiness that follows.

Act II: We Feel — The terrifying moment when casual becomes something more, and the vulnerability we never asked for.

Act III: We Ghost — The silence, the theories we construct, and the slow road toward acceptance—or the courage to try again.

From taxonomy of first nights to the grief that has no name, Francesco examines the patterns of modern romance with the analytical mind of an engineer and the raw honesty of someone who's been through it. He's been ghosted, been the ghost, caught feelings for the wrong person, and—once, memorably—found something real.

This isn't a guidebook. It's a mirror. For anyone who's ever stared at "Read 11:47 PM" wondering what they did wrong, for anyone who's mourned a situationship that never got a proper funeral, for anyone still swiping despite everything—this book is for you.